I give credit to The Beatles for inspiring this post with the song, “Let it Be”. I heard this song today and my mind flooded with the ways it relates to life. I was quickly reminded that I do need to, in fact, just let some things “be.”
It’s so easy to get wrapped up in all the things I feel like need to be controlled or fixed. Being a single Momma of two head strong children and a teacher to many different personalities, I’m in constant problem solving mode. Anytime an issue arises I go into Mommy/teacher mode. How can I make this better? What’s a different way? Can we work on this together? Or sometimes, the fleeting need to just make the issue at hand stop in it’s tracks, I quickly jump in and take over a situation. Just. Make. It. Stop. Already.
It’s simple things most of the time. Like how on earth did the couch become the new Goldfish (cracker) container? My brother called me a name. My sister isn’t sharing with me. My friends took the ball from me. He/she won’t share the markers with me. These are teachable moments, right? I can help you! We will fix this, or find a way to settle it. And I bought an amazing hand sensored trash can so you can have fun while throwing the goldfish away, rather than shoving them in the couch cushions! Easy peasy! (Enter “lemon squeezy”…if you’re a teacher you get it!)
Sometimes, however, it’s not so simple. Sometimes it’s hard, and seemingly impossible, to “fix” or even answer. And sometimes it’s my own questions that throw me for a loop.
Why? That’s a big one. Why did my children’s father think the end of his life here on earth was the only way?
What if? What if I’d said something different or did something a different way? Would it have changed the outcome?
How? How did we get here? I say this, but not entirely in a negative content. There are lots of how’s. How did this happen? I wonder. However, in light of a terrible situation, we are actually on a great place. How is that possible? I don’t have the answer, but I’m thankful for it.
Where? Where would we be if this hadn’t happened? That could go so many ways, that it actually hurts my head to think about. Where will we be in the future? Again, there are endless answers. We can’t predict the future. But I like to lean on the fact that there are endless possibilities for us. And with the love that surrounds us, I can see a bright future ahead. We are blessed.
The why, the what, the where, and the how….those are the scary ones. They are there and they wont disappear. But I have a choice! I can to decide to just “let it be!”
And that’s just what I’m doing!